{"id":2465,"date":"2009-10-13T14:11:49","date_gmt":"2009-10-13T18:11:49","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.opticality.com\/blog\/?p=2465"},"modified":"2009-10-13T14:47:29","modified_gmt":"2009-10-13T18:47:29","slug":"wonderful-weekend-wedding","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/opticality.com\/blog\/2009\/10\/13\/wonderful-weekend-wedding\/","title":{"rendered":"Wonderful Weekend Wedding"},"content":{"rendered":"

Heretofore, whenever I saw the letters WWW, I inevitably thought World Wide Web<\/em>. From now on, when I see WWW, I\u2019ll think Wonderful Weekend Wedding<\/strong>!<\/p>\n

We have incredible godchildren who\u2019ve brought many blessings into our lives. Among these is the wide circle of wonderful people attracted to them, who\u2019ve become life-long friends of theirs. We\u2019ve had the privilege and pleasure of meeting many of their friends, and in a number of cases, becoming their life-long friends independent of our godchildren.<\/p>\n

One of the very special people who came into our lives this way is our godson\u2019s college roommate. When he graduated, he moved to NYC and has been here for more than five years now. Let\u2019s call him Neal.<\/p>\n

On January 18th, 2009, we had a lovely lunch with him at our favorite Mexican restaurant, for the express purpose of meeting someone very special to him. We\u2019ll call her Maggie. We loved her immediately, as everyone who ever meets her has and will.<\/p>\n

(All photos in this blog can be clicked on to see a larger version.)<\/p>\n

\"NealMaggieElRioGrande\"<\/a><\/p>\n

In the summer, they told us that we should leave 10\/17\/2009 open for a possible wedding date. We were thrilled, and would have made any<\/strong> date they picked, but I turned to Lois and I said, \u201cMan, if only they had picked 10\/10\/2009, it would be a tad more convenient for our crazy travel schedule up and down I95.\u201d Of course, we never said anything to them.<\/p>\n

A few weeks later, they wrote to say that the date was going to be 10\/10\/2009, and they hoped that the change wouldn\u2019t be a problem for us. Sweet! \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n

Aside from the scheduling convenience, 10\/10 is such an auspicious day in our lives for weddings. Lois\u2019 parents were married on 10\/10. Both of her mom\u2019s siblings (a brother and sister) were married on 10\/10 (different years for all three). The CEO of our first portfolio company, who we are still close friends with all these years later, was also married on 10\/10. All of those marriages were strong and long, as this one is sure to be!<\/p>\n

We were also invited to the rehearsal on Friday afternoon, the rehearsal dinner Friday evening, and a breakfast send-off on Sunday morning, hence the appropriate WWW moniker for this wedding!<\/p>\n

One last pre-wedding story. In June, we brought 17 people to join us at a Girlyman<\/a> concert at the Highline Ballroom<\/a>. I blogged about that night here<\/a>, and ended with the following two paragraphs:<\/p>\n

I have to conclude with an incredible small world story. One of the couples that attended last night was married last year on 08\/08\/08 (I blogged about that wedding too). Another couple that attended last night is getting married this year, on 10\/10. They had never met before last night.<\/p>\n

In introducing themselves, and getting to know each other a bit, they discovered that the pastor that married the 08\/08\/08 couple will be marrying the 10\/10\/09 couple as well. That this tidbit is true is strange and cool enough. That they would separately be invited by us, chat to each other, and figure that out so quickly is a little other-worldly to me. \ud83d\ude42<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

The wedding was held in Trinity Church in Princeton, NJ (where Maggie\u2019s parents live). The rehearsal was wonderful, lighthearted and informative. Their minister is a very special man, and while he kept everyone focused on the task at hand, it was done lovingly, with good humor.<\/p>\n

\"TrinityChurchPrincetonOutside\"<\/a>\"TrinityChurchPrinceton\"<\/a> \"BestMan\"<\/a> \"Neal\"<\/a>\"BridesmaidsRehearsal\"<\/a> \"GroomsmenRehearsal\"<\/a> \"HighFive\"<\/a> \"Organ\"<\/a><\/p>\n

The flower girl practiced her glide down the aisle in a red wagon, pulled by the maid of honor:<\/p>\n

\"FlowerGirlRehearsal\"<\/a><\/p>\n

Before settling on that, other configurations were tried. Here\u2019s one that was scrubbed after a test run down the aisle:<\/p>\n

\"FailedFlowerBoyConcept\"<\/a><\/p>\n

Afterward, we attended the rehearsal dinner with roughly 40 people, in a private room at a local Chinese restaurant, Sunny Garden<\/a>. We sat at four round tables for 10, with a large Lazy Susan in the center of each, making it easy and fun to share a wonderful meal, with excellent company all around.<\/p>\n

\"RD2\"<\/a><\/p>\n

We met a number of Neal and Maggie\u2019s friends and family at the rehearsal and got to meet more at the dinner. It was as warm and inviting an atmosphere as one could hope for, and the circle of friends got wider, quickly. Inevitable given how we all love Neal and Maggie!<\/p>\n

\"ChopsticksAnyone\"<\/a> \"RD1\"<\/a> \"RD3\"<\/a> \"RD4\"<\/a> \"RD5\"<\/a> \"RD6\"<\/a> \"RD7\"<\/a> \"RD8\"<\/a> \"RD9\"<\/a><\/p>\n

The wedding was at 2pm on Saturday. We got there early, so we could sit close up to the action<\/em>. The ceremony was beautiful. Maggie underscored her exquisite taste by having elegant bridesmaid\u2019s dresses, something I understand is unusual. \ud83d\ude09<\/p>\n

\"Bridesmaids\"<\/a><\/p>\n

While we knew the minister would be inspiring from the wedding we attended the previous year, he still managed to surprise us in a major way. The one question I never asked Neal or Maggie is how they knew the minister. Since Maggie grew up in NJ, and he\u2019s based in NJ, I just assumed the connection was through her.<\/p>\n

Well, I was wrong! The minister told how he met Neal when he was in high school, and how they became friends because of what an extraordinary person Neal is. No, the surprise for me wasn\u2019t that Neal is an extraordinary person, of that, we were already sure. The surprise was how far back their relationship went, and how it began.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m sure (partially from experience) that the minister gives great advice to all couples who are about to be married. Still, I have a feeling that knowing Neal as well as he does, for so long, the moving speech he gave them wasn\u2019t just a boilerplate one. It was great advice, that all married couples should heed.<\/p>\n

\"Minister\"<\/a><\/p>\n

No, I won\u2019t repeat it here, because I don\u2019t want to cut into the minister\u2019s royalties or be sued for divulging trade secrets. \ud83d\ude09<\/p>\n

We had a one in five chance of getting David as our usher. That\u2019s exactly what happened. Here he is, about to seat us:<\/p>\n

\"DavidHadar\"<\/a><\/p>\n

More photos from the gorgeous ceremony:<\/p>\n

\"ExchaningRings\"<\/a> \"Wedding3\"<\/a>\"GivingAwayTheBride\"<\/a>\"ThankingFatherOfTheBride\"<\/a>\"Wedding1\"<\/a>\"Wedding2\"<\/a>\"Organ\"<\/a> \"Wedding4\"<\/a>\"FlowerGirlAndParents\"<\/a> \"KentuckyContingent\"<\/a><\/p>\n

After the ceremony we headed back to the hotel to relax before the 5pm reception. A little while later, David called to ask if I could return to the church and shuttle some people back to the hotel. I was happy to do it, and ended up bringing back Neal\u2019s sister (a bridesmaid herself), the maid of honor and David.<\/p>\n

We then met David out front and headed off to the reception. The hors d\u2019oeuvres were amazing (though I\u2019m told I missed the best of them, which is hard to believe). I was also (virtually) forced<\/em> to drink some lovely champagne, only because I noticed that they were serving them in my all-time favorite champagne glasses. \ud83d\ude09<\/p>\n

\"FavoriteChampagneGlass\"<\/a><\/p>\n

We watched a slide show of pictures of Neal and Maggie side-by-side in similar poses and outfits, from birth through high school. It was a hoot and incredibly creative. Following that were professional photos of them that were stunning. In a nice surprise, we saw that two photos that Lois took of them, one from the first time we met Maggie, and another from the concert I mentioned above, were included in the mix!<\/p>\n

\"Slideshow1\"<\/a> \"Slideshow3\"<\/a> \"Slideshow4\"<\/a> \"Slideshow5\"<\/a><\/p>\n

More opportunities to meet new friends and catch up with old ones:<\/p>\n

\"GroomsFatherMaggie\"<\/a> \"GroomsSisterBrother\"<\/a> \"HadarGroomsMother\"<\/a> \"HadarKesavDavidNeal\"<\/a> \"LoisMarkHadar\"<\/a> \"MoneyChangingHands\"<\/a> \"SharingALaugh\"<\/a> \"DavidHadarNeal\"<\/a> \"DavidNealMaggieLoisHadar\"<\/a><\/p>\n

Then we were off to the main dining hall. Great toasts by the maid of honor and the best man. A wonderful DJ, who played an eclectic mix of music while we dined, all at an appropriate volume to permit people to converse. The mix even included Acoustic Alchemy, one of my all-time favorite groups, that we are likely going to see for the third time this coming Sunday!<\/p>\n

\"Reception2\"<\/a>\"Reception1\"<\/a> \"Reception3\"<\/a> \"Reception4\"<\/a><\/p>\n

The food was incredible. The service was impeccable, yet delivered with a zesty personality. Everyone at our table bonded with our primary server. If she could have joined us as a guest at the table, we would have welcomed it!<\/p>\n

\"OurServer\"<\/a><\/p>\n

There were a number of babies at the reception, including two at our table, and they were the focus of some wonderful memories that will be with us forever.<\/p>\n

\"ReadyToParty\"<\/a> \"Sharing\"<\/a> \"SistersEntertainingABaby\"<\/a>\"SleepingItOff\"<\/a><\/p>\n

Once the meal was over, the dancing commenced, and the DJ kicked it into another gear. The youngsters danced their hearts out. I\u2019m never surprised when women dance well, but I admit to always<\/strong> being surprised when I see a man dance well. Color me purple, because at least a half a dozen guys there impressed the heck out of me!<\/p>\n

\"Dancing12\"<\/a> \"Dancing1\"<\/a> \"Dancing2\"<\/a> \"Dancing4\"<\/a>\"Dancing3\"<\/a> \"Dancing8\"<\/a>\"Dancing5\"<\/a> \"Dancing6\"<\/a> \"Dancing7\"<\/a> \"Dancing9\"<\/a> \"Dancing10\"<\/a> \"Dancing11\"<\/a><\/p>\n

Neal\u2019s sister took pity on me and tried to get me to dance. I\u2019m proud that I stood my ground, and resisted. Lois wasn\u2019t as strong-willed as me, and she ended up dancing one dance with David. \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n

\"LoisDavid1\"<\/a>\"LoisDavid4\"<\/a> \"LoisDavid3\"<\/a><\/p>\n

The traditional cake cutting:<\/p>\n

\"CakeCutting\"<\/a><\/p>\n

After dessert and coffee, and plenty more non-stop dancing, we all bid the happy couple good night, and left for the hotel ourselves.<\/p>\n

\"Sendoff1\"<\/a> \"Sendoff2\"<\/a> \"Sendoff3\"<\/a> \"Sendoff4\"<\/a> \"Sendoff5\"<\/a>\"Reception5\"<\/a><\/p>\n

Their Just Married<\/strong> car, with balloons streaming in the night air from behind, passed us on the highway! We drove Neal\u2019s brother and his girlfriend back to the hotel. The girlfriend said \u201cI think Maggie just waved to us!\u201d. Sure enough, she was right. The next morning Neal asked us if we saw Maggie wave. \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n

\"DecoratedCar\"<\/a> \"CarDecorators3\"<\/a> \"CarDecorators\"<\/a> \"CarDecorators2\"<\/a><\/p>\n

Simply a perfect day\/evening. The next morning we joined the bride and groom for a farewell buffet breakfast that was also outstanding. Eight of us then took a nice stroll around the Princeton campus. Afterward we met the newlyweds at the train station, where they came to say goodbye to the California contingent that was boarding the train back to Newark Airport.<\/p>\n

\"NealBreakfast\"<\/a> \"MaggieBreakfast\"<\/a><\/p>\n

\"Princeton6\"<\/a> \"Princeton1\"<\/a> \"Princeton2\"<\/a> \"Princeton3\"<\/a> \"Princeton4\"<\/a> \"Princeton5\"<\/a><\/p>\n

\"LeadingTheWay\"<\/a><\/p>\n

\"Goodbye1\"<\/a> \"Goodbye2\"<\/a><\/p>\n

David and his friend took off in one car, and we left in ours, with the four of us heading straight to Alexandria, VA to see a Girlyman concert that night. As exhausted as we were, it was a fitting way to top off an already perfect weekend.<\/p>\n

Neal and Maggie, have a extraordinary life (we know you will), but make sure to share as much of it as you can with the rest of us. You are both a joy to be around individually, and even more so when you\u2019re together.<\/p>\n

Thanks for including us in this most wonderful of celebrations!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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